Fast or slow?

To each her own; and that applies to what a woman wants in bed -- either a fast fuck or the slow, smooth kind. However, it seems that most women prefer the sensual approach rather than the pound-pound-pounding away.

A slow, smooth approach will enable you and your partner to employ your senses and experience all the bliss related to the sexual experience. Feel her soft skin, see her lovely face, hear her moans, taste her mouth, and smell the scent of her body.

True, most films favor and highlight the fast and hard fucking. But that's just on film, silly! That's the way it's supposed to look -- quickly and vigorously. How else can they sustain your interest if they otherwise took the slow road? It'd be rather boring, wouldn't it? So, in order to get that wild and exciting impression, the porn stars are instructed to take the fast road. That's why men have created the illusion that this is just the way it is supposed to be done. Well, sorry to disappoint.

Besides there are advantages to the slow approach. One is that you get to explore her body more. It's not just her breasts and her twat that matters. Have you tried licking her ears, touching her nape or the back of her knees, or massaging her foot? Well, you should. These are highly erogenous areas of the woman's body' and it'd just be too selfish of you if you don't provide her the pleasure.

Women are turned on with kissing, caressing, licking (slurping even). It just sends her to the edge as you masterfully rein her back. This only makes her even hornier! She'll want you more and more if you tease her; building up the aching need inside her. Don't you just love hearing her moan and feel the tingling down her spine?

Build up her longing with romantic nuances like flickering candles, rose petals, fresh sheets, sweet music, kinky underwear or sex toy. This whole romantic package is important for her, so don't you try to shortchange her. Try out various foreplay techniques first before taking the slow plunge. Intense and increased desire only makes way for numerous orgasms.

A slow approach also conserves your energy for that surging crescendo. If you thrust harder and deeper, you are in a rush to get there. You're only forcing it; and it's not as satisfying as it should have been otherwise. It could also give your honey a stiff neck or sore back, for that matter. Several seconds of frenzy rewarded by a quick orgasm is rather limiting. Why not extend your pleasure even more?

Learn how to control your urges. Build up her longing with slow, deliberate thrusts, pausing curtly, and constricting your inner muscles. Touching fosters a stronger connection; the more you are familiar with each other's bodies, the more intimate your sexual encounters would be.

Every sexual experience means so much for a woman. So, try to approach your love-making with sincerity, confidence, and respect. You can show her this by making her feel special and by considering her needs. She may not say it out loud, but she needs more than a steely pecker inside her. She needs more than that, and you should know better.

Basic Sex Positions

There is no right or wrong way to enjoy sexual intercourse with your partner. If you are both having a good time, it's right for you. That is what should be the important deciding factor. The entire reason we have sex is to experience pleasure with our partners, as long as both parties are having a good time, you are doing everything right :-) There are a LOT of different positions for sexual intercourse! Some people prefer to be lying down, some standing, some sitting. Some men prefer being on top of his partner, some underneath, , and some prefer their own tried and true favourite positions. You need to discover what works best for you and your partner.

The Positions

We'll present the most popular positions, and what features make each one fun - plus any minuses to each position. Some people love to fuck while lying on their sides. Some people read the Karma Sutra and try some truly amazing positions for making love, and some prefer their own tried and true favourite positions. Please remember that when trying any new sexual position, the man should be gradual inserting his penis into his partner and should begin with a slow stroke till both partners have had time to accustom themselves to the new position so that they feel more confident.

Missionary Style

The missionary position is the most common position for intercourse in the western culture. The reason we call it the missionary position is because in the nineteenth century, Christian missionaries considered it the only "proper" position for intercourse. These missionaries tried to convince foreigners to adopt this position as they claimed it was less "animalistic" than other sexual positions. What it basically is is the man gets on top of the woman, with both partners facing each other. He gets between her legs, inserts his penis, and lies on her while using his hands or elbows to hold up part of his weight and to move him. In reality, the man on top position can be pretty versatile. Some people enjoy this position, feeling it is intimate because you can see your partner's face.

If the woman holds herself just right, she can easily enjoy the man's pubic bone rubbing her clitoris (allowing her to orgasm). If her partner wants deeper penetration than the missionary position typically offers, his partner can raise her legs and he can pull her forward.

Woman on Top

Many couples prefer the female superior position also known as the woman on top position. A lot of women like this position because they can control how deep and how hard the penis' strokes are. By experimenting with the positions of the body to cause changes in the angles of insertion, the woman can frequently enjoy better stimulation of the clitoris lying on top.

Also the woman can kneel over her partner or squat over her partner. She can face him or face away from him. A squatting position allows the woman to use her calves as well as her thigh muscles for motion. Or while squatting, she can put her feet on the floor in order to partly stand and then lower herself. This position is great if either the man or the woman wish to masturbate the woman's clitoris. Woman on top is also a perfect position for a woman who likes to look at her partner's face during intercourse.

Lying on Your Sides

This is the best position for the woman who likes to masturbate during intercourse. It leaves her front area fully open to be touched. Many women find that the easiest position to allow use of a vibrator when being fucked from behind when both partners are on their sides. Also there are amazing opportunities for the man to fondle his partner's breasts - or anything else he likes.

Some couples find that far more body to body contact occurs while spooning on their sites, allowing them to feel connected with their partner. A lot of men also find they can last longer in this position because it does not allow as vigorous a stroke. It is not possible while spooning to easily enjoy a long stroke, but a deep stroke works quite well. This is an excellent position for intercourse when the woman is in her last few months of pregnancy as long as you are careful not to fuck too deeply. Experiment a little with this position - try it with the woman's upper leg up, or down. Try thrusting in slightly different angles. You can find a LOT of different sensations using this position!

Standing Up

Adventurous couples find standing during intercourse can be quite exciting. The easiest way is to have the woman bend over. This way, her vagina is available and open, and her partner will find himself able to penetrate especially deeply. Also you can enjoy looking down at your partner in a totally different way. If you're a guy who enjoys using a little more athletic prowess, this position is a good one. You use more energy standing than you do lying down or sitting. Also it takes more balancing, so be sure that both partners have positioned themselves and are well-balanced before attempting to have intercourse while standing - you wouldn't want to fall.

Also some people sit the woman on a desk or dresser. The male stands while his partner sits with her pelvis forward and her legs apart at the edge of the surface. Man standing woman sitting is a great position because it allows the man intense control of his thrusts. Also, the women can control the angle that the penis enters her by shifting her hips, allowing her much better orgasms using this position and masturbation together. Experimenting with new sexual positions can keep sex fresh and new. Each new position can bring new experiences in touching, in angles, in prolonging your sexual experience or in making it more passionate. Some positions may allow one of you to have more intense orgasms, or to find different sensations and different feelings in joining your bodies.

Having new positions and experimenting with them can provide endless variety to any relationship, whether established or brand new.

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